A Love Letter to Purposeful Alignment
Dear Purposeful Alignment,
The very moment you came into my life, everything changed for me forever. Your intentional proposition required me to choose you in every moment of life. Your presence is an important tenet to becoming a transformational leader and game changer and it was unlike any other demand I had ever been asked to make in a relationship. By choosing a life-long relationship with you, I didn’t know it then, but I know now that I was being invited into a highly relational, reciprocal, and interconnected relationship. You require me to hold the juxtaposition of a set of healthy tensions-growing and stretching, truth-telling, balance, boundaries, ease, love, and unimaginable transformation and impact.
My relationship with you continues to deepen and grow daily-providing clarity and safety and explicitly demanding me to be clear about my no’s so that I can create space for all of the yes’s . A set of yes’s that would be required to be made to constantly allow me to be broken open over and over again in our relationship. Trusting that I won’t be broken.
Your love enables me to constantly dream bigger and bolder about what could be possible in my intimate relationship with you. Thank you for allowing me to grapple with the invitation and spaciousness to fumble through the discomfort, fear, disorientation, repair and growth along the way-without judgment. While holding me closely through recalibrating a new normalized rhythm, way of working, and noticing that is constantly moving me into new spaces and relationships and renegotiating existing ones in service to what could be possible as a collective tackling the complex issues of our lifetime.
Your offering of the messy middle as an intentional and powerful embrace to build muscles, practice, fail forward, pause and start again in a cyclical process is such a gift. Allowing the space to pause and breathe, while trusting and knowing myself at a new level as a prerequisite to continue to meet you in just the right nurturing relationship. As well as the courage to stand in this new knowing of self and resisting the noise of others who have yet to commit to you.
I am so grateful I have had the privilege to experience this type of intimacy and deep partnership with you, and I know I am just scratching the surface. Know that I choose you as we continue to have new experiences and grow older together. I choose to…
- Embrace the three choices of permission, transformation, and being a game charger.
- I choose to have unwavering clarity regarding my unique assignment and my calling.
- I choose to release and redefine the struggle between permission and power.
- I choose to permit myself to see things as they are.
- I choose to interrupt the distance between the signals, and my yes.
- I choose action and movement.
- I choose the belief that transformation doesn’t have to be traumatic but restorative.
- I choose a posture that moves me from the fringes of my life to the center and proximity to you.
- I choose to level up and challenge myself.
- I choose significance over success.
Lastly, I choose to be liberated and free to amplify all the layers and dimensions that represent the very essence of who I am and who I am becoming. Dimensions that are constantly being revealed through my relationship with you-all necessary in the continuous cycle of doing my work, being of service to others, and playing my role as a part of the collective in service to create a ripple of impact that is needed today and into the future. Thank you for loving me unapologetically and freely and anchoring me. I love you, and I trust and recommit to you every day.
Author, Choosing Purposeful Alignment: The Messy Middle of Transformation